Monday, February 08, 2010


Now that there is quite a distance to travel between work and home i have been taking the train in the morning. I must say I'm running into a dilemma that i haven't had to deal with before. If I'm sitting down and an older person gets on the train of course i will get up and let them have my seat. My momma taught me a FEW manners. BUT, how do you gauge how old is old enough to warrant my standing up? I mean, if a lady gets on the train and she's say.. 50? Wouldn't she be insulted by me jumping up and offering my seat? But what if said 50 year old has a bad hip and i don't get up for fear of insulting her? Or...what if an 80 year old man gets on? Am i supposed to offer my seat to a man? Aren't men supposed to offer their seat to me? No matter the age? And what about that guy next to me? Shouldn't he get up before me? I have been so stuck on this question mentally that i just sit there and pretend like i don't see the old people at all. But now I fear retaliation. I'm worried the next time i enter a train I'll be over run by a mob of angry old people whacking me with their walkers and throwing aspirin bottles at me! I'll be known throughout the land as the evil-no-getter-upper.


Blogger ege said...

You ARE my left-coast twin, aren't you? I finally gave up sitting all together for this very reason!

5:14 PM  
Blogger pork luck said...

ehehhe.. makes for a long ride.

5:24 PM  
Blogger Shelly said...

If they're near you just ask them. "Would you like to sit down" works. Sometimes they'll take you up on it and sometimes they don't. You never know how f*ed up (as in bad back, etc) someone is and you won't offend them to ask. Sometimes if you ask and they say Yes someone younger than you will get up before you get a chance and then you get to be nice AND keep your seat. :-)

11:27 PM  
Blogger pork luck said...

good advice shelly!

1:50 PM  
Blogger Renovation Therapy said...

If the person is over 60, pregnant or just looks dog-ass-tired, offer the seat. That's my rule for the NYC subway/bus system.

2:57 PM  
Blogger pork luck said...


3:17 PM  

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